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7 Ways to Fight Porn

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Fifty Shades of White

I was in Jr. High the first time my eyes saw pornography. In God’s grace, he’s rooted out the image from my mind but the scenario is still there. I wasn’t looking for it, but it found me. I was heading into my classroom at school when a classmate had a picture in his hand and literally put it right in front of my face and then ran off. One of the most sobering lessons is that kids don’t have to look for porn. It too easily can find them. We can't deny the fact that sexual purity is ferociously under attack. In a sermon titled Fifty Shades of White at The Brook, I shared a number of sobering statistics along with several ways to fight lust. 

 

Sobering Statistics

Porn brings in about $13 Billion a year in U.S., with free porn on the internet being a large reason why its net worth isn’t increasing at more rapid rates. Porn isn't harmless, but is quite destructive

According to one study, 1 in 5 mobile searches are for pornographic material. Approximately 9 out of 10 children between the ages of 8 and 16 have viewed pornography on the Internet. The average age of first Internet exposure to pornography is 11 years old (with some studies having that stat much lower) and in most cases it is unintentional. The largest consumer of Internet pornography is 12- to 17-year-old boys. In 2001, 70% of high schoolers said they have accidentally stumbled across pornography online. That’s in 2001. However, we must not let these stats escape the truth that 28% of porn users are women. 

The porn industry doesn’t appeal to age, gender, or ethnicity as much as it appeals to the human heart. God has made us sexual beings with sexual desires that are good and pure and right. However, sin has corrupted our hearts and twisted our desires leading to broken families, lives, and a trail of hurt.

 

7 Responses to Porn

  1. Repentance – For most who are addicted to pornography, there is an enslaving belief that they could never be freed. Victory begins with turning from sin (what the Bible calls repentance) and trusting in Jesus who died for your sin. This is the the power of the gospel, the good news that brings freedom from sin and a new life by the Spirit of God.  
  2. Accountability – Faith in Jesus is the starting point, but God has also provided community where you have two or three people in your life who can love you enough to ask you the hard questions, tell you what you need to hear, and fervently pray for you. One online accountability device is called Covenant Eyes. Covenant Eyes costs as low as $10 a month (that’s only two trips to Starbucks) and sends your online activity to faithful accountability partners. Knowing that you have people who care about receiving this report will inspire you to pursue purity.
  3. Web Protection – Leaving your computer without a firewall system is like leaving a loaded weapon on your living room table. It’s unwise, dangerous, and begging for disaster. The U.S. Department of Justice writes, “Never before in the history of telecommunications media in the United States has so much indecent (and obscene) material been so easily accessible by so many minors in so many American homes with so few restrictions.” One web protection that we use in our home and on our devices is K-9 Web Protection. It's free and easy to set up.
  4. Be Honest – Parents, don’t be guilty of the “My kid is a good kid” kind of mindset. “Good kids” are not perfect kids. “Good kids” have hearts that are easily led astray. “Good kids” don’t need to look for porn for them to be exposed to it.
  5. Screen your Movies –Many movies may not be labeled pornography but are awfully close. They present sex in varied shades of grey that diminish its beauty and marriage-enjoying design. For this reason, I highly recommend two different websites that help you screen your movies so that you’re not stuck in a theater or in your living room filling your mind with images that you didn’t expect to see. Those websites are Plugged In and Kids In Mind (Plugged In even has an App for Apple and Android!). Don’t go to the theater or watch a movie without consulting one of these or something like them. You won’t regret it.
  6. Seek Counseling – Don’t be too proud to seek help. Talk to your pastor or a Bible believing counselor to walk with you in this battle. Dr. Judith Reisman says this about the power of porn, “Pornography triggers a myriad of endogenous, internal, natural drugs that mimic the ‘high’ from a street drug. Addiction to pornography is addiction to what I dub erotoxins—mind altering drugs produced by the viewer’s own brain.” Seek help. Find victory.
  7. Fight! – Fight lust and lies with truth. The Bible is likened to a sword (Eph 6:17, Heb 4:12) because the spiritual battle is a war (Eph 6:10-20). Find Bible verses to memorize and recite them when in the thick of the battle. Here are a few that I recommend memorizing:

Psalm 119:9 —How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.

1 Timothy 4:12 —Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.

Job 31:1 — I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin (i.e. young woman)?

Romans 12:2 —Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

1 Corinthians 10:13 —No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

These 7 responses are by no means exhaustive, but do provide a helpful starting point. If you'd like to learn more on how to stand for the God of light rather than bow to the idol of lust, visit this helpful Covenant Eyes blog.

 

 

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